IEP meetings can feel overwhelming—so much paperwork, professional jargon, and pressure to make the right decisions for your child. But here’s the truth: you belong at the table, and your voice matters. I am Gretchen Boerwinkle, IEP Coach and I’m here to tell you not to be afraid to ask questions.
One of the best ways to participate confidently is to come prepared with questions. Here are some key ones to consider asking during your next IEP meeting:
1. What data are you using to make decisions about my child’s progress?
Asking for specific data—test scores, classroom observations, and progress monitoring—helps ensure decisions are based on facts, not assumptions. Anecdotal notes are fine, but decisions need to be made with data.
2. How are the current goals supporting my child’s needs?
Every IEP goal should be meaningful, measurable, and tailored to your child’s unique learning profile. If something feels off or unclear, ask for clarification or revisions.
3. What accommodations or modifications are in place, and how are they working?
You have the right to understand exactly what supports are being used and whether they’re effective. Data can, and should, be kept on the effectiveness of accommodations. If something isn’t working, it’s okay to ask for changes
4. How is my child being included in general education settings?
This question encourages conversation about inclusion, peer interaction, and access to the same learning opportunities as classmates.
5. How do you support my child’s social and emotional development?
Many children with IEPs benefit from emotional, behavioral, or social supports—these are just as important as academic goals.
6. How will progress be tracked and communicated with me?
It’s important to know how often you’ll receive updates and what those updates will look like. Consistent communication builds trust and helps you support learning at home.
7. What happens if my child isn’t making progress?
Ask how the team will adjust services or strategies if things aren’t working. The IEP should be a living document, not a one-and-done plan.
8. Can we schedule follow-up meetings or check-ins?
Don’t be afraid to request follow-ups, especially if your child is transitioning to a new school, grade, or support plan. Get a date on the calendar now!
Bonus Tip: Bring Your Own Notes
Write down your questions and concerns ahead of time. Bring copies of outside evaluations, work samples, or notes from home. You are the expert on your child, and your input is vital.
Final Thoughts
IEP meetings don’t have to be intimidating. With the right questions—and the confidence to ask them—you can help create a plan that truly supports your child’s growth and success.
And remember: you don’t have to navigate it alone. As an IEP coach, I’m here to help you prepare, understand your options, and advocate every step of the way.
This article is for informational purposes only. Requirements and implementation of IEPs and 504 Plans may vary by state and school district